Some people feel really comfortable talking about their emotions, but others feel quite awkward about it. This can make it hard when something serious happens that you need to talk about.
There’s no right or wrong way to feel, but keeping emotions hidden can make everything worse.
- Because if you have strong feelings and you don’t talk about them, it makes it difficult to talk about anything at all.
- For example, if you’re feeling angry, embarrassed or sad, chances are you won’t be able to concentrate on anything until it’s out in the open.
- The moment someone says something like: “I’m sorry I’m being so weird today, it’s just that...” you’ll find that the communication suddenly gets much easier.
Sometimes putting a name to what you're feeling helps
It’s likely that you’ll have a massive “”WTF?!” moment when you've been diagnosed with cancer. This can happen even if you suspected something was up, because it’s unlikely that you would be expecting cancer.
Let’s be frank: finding out that you have cancer can scare the crap out of you. Some fear is based in reality but some isn’t. Admitting that you’re afraid can sometimes be a big relief. Learning early on how to deal with your fear will be really helpful.
Feeling angry is pretty understandable. You might feel like it’s just not fair, want to know WHY it happened, and then get mad at yourself for feeling that way. When feelings like this strike, be as kind to yourself as possible and remember that it’s not bad to feel this way. There are good ways and bad ways to deal with anger.
There are lots of reasons to feel sad when you have been diagnosed with cancer, and it’s a natural reaction. If, however, the sadness persists for a long time and starts to get in the way of other things, then you may be feeling depressed.
It can strike for all sorts of reasons. You might feel bad that someone has to take time off work to look after you. You might feel guilty because you have to miss school or work. It’s easy to get caught up in these thoughts, but it’s also very unproductive.
Sometimes you might feel absolutely nothing and it may take a while until you do. Don’t be hard on yourself if this is the case – it might just take a while for you to process it all.
People sometimes look different or act differently because of cancer, and people sometimes ask annoying questions that you don’t know how to answer. Dealing with starers can be fun.
It’s not uncommon for you to feel jealous. You might be jealous because you are stuck in hospital and can’t go out and do the same things as everyone else.
It's common to feel isolated, even if you're surrounded by people all the time. You might miss hanging out with your friends, or family while you're in hospital. It can feel like nobody understands what you're going through.
Remember: you are not the only person out there who is going through this.